Showing posts with label finding serenity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label finding serenity. Show all posts

Sunday, August 11

away from 1 sided affair..!

some info taken from wikiHow :-

Have a crush on someone? someone whom you thought liked you back when in fact he couldn't care less? chillex dear...the world isn't going to end just because he doesn't feel the same way like you do.

1. Be strong and think

So what if he doesn't like me? He is not the only guy in the world. Remember this, he is not one in a million, but rather just one out of a million. 

2. Ask yourself a few questions that can strengthen your resolve to forget him:

  • Why should I waste my time on someone who doesn't care and isn't willing to spend his time on me?
  • Why should I waste my emotions on someone who doesn't reciprocate?
  • Why should I put myself through such arduous torture of missing him, thinking about him, caring about him, loving him and gain nothing of that sort in return?
3. If you have resolved to forget about him and move on, stick with it. 
Do not hesitate and try to think of different excuses for you not to move on.

4. If you are in the situation where you think he might have liked you, and then you realized he really wasn't interested, it's OK
Just move on and please do not harp on any past 'experiences' that has made you think that he likes you. Do not give yourself the opportunity to think that you might still have a chance. If there is really something between the two of you, don't you think something might have already happened? Why wait till the time when you finally realized that it isn't mutual?

5. Do something that can take your mind off him, or this one sided relationship
Even if it's just that little while. Do not lie in bed, cuddling underneath your blankets and listen to depressing songs. Nope, that isn't going to help but make you feel worse because all you're going to think about is him, him and still him! Go for a jog, walk your dogs, clean your room, cook something, bake, anything!

6. Think of his negative side
Think of that side of him that isn't favourable. Yes, you might say that you love him so much that you love his negative sides altogether. Girl, that isn't going to help. What you are trying to do now is to forget about him and to diminish all those romantic feelings you have for him.
  • Delete his number and old texts messages.
  • Cry if you need to, scream into a pillow, write an angry letter then burn it. Let it out.
  • Share your feeling with your friends or anyone you trust.
  • Do not try to text him back.
  • Spend more time with your friends or family. The more you spend with them the easier it is to fill all the sadness in your heart and replace it with happiness.
  • Always be doing something, keep yourself busy, because even the slightest of spare time can have your mind running back to him.
  • Think about the fact that you will find that one special guy later on in life. Sometimes, women/girls think that because their temporary crush doesn't want them, they will be forever alone. Move on! Start looking for guys that are the opposite of your crush and talk to them.
  • Remember that he may like other people and your just wasting your time caring about him. But there's Always someone who likes you and you just don't notice them.
  • Everyone has faults, so find his and dwell on them. It will make you realize that he's not as good as you thought he was.
  • Don't spend more time around him than you have to, this will make it easier.
  • Stay positive because your never alone when you have great friends to support you :).
  • Don't block him on Facebook or Twitter. He will be able to see how happy you are and that you are strong enough to get through the pain he caused you.
  • Realize that anyone around you could be just as amazing as you thought he was! Keep an open mind and meet new people!
  • Every time you see him focus on something you don't like about him.
  • Eat some ice cream and talk to your best friend about all your problems but ask if they mind first!!
  • Ignore him. Forgive and forget.
  • Please do not harm yourself in any way just because you've fallen out of 'love'. One-sided sided love isn't love.
#should be a good guidelines if u happens to encounter this problem.  :)

Saturday, June 1

stepping forwards.

Dear girlfriend~

what's happened to the words MOVE ON?
let me remind u what u've told me before.
"once u broke up n comes into a new relationship again...that means u already MOVE ON!"
but then, why u still being a cry baby over ur EX new relationship?
hey gurlsssssssssss...clear up ur mind please~


dun ever b like diz.
it's hard...but u must try harder.
u r stepping forwards my dear..not towards the past.
past is a history. Left u with lessons to guide u to start a new journey.
looked up for the lessons sometimes? yes u should.
but only to remind u bout the bad things happened before.
dun ever pick up any sweet sour memories of u n him.
it's really a silly mistake..!!!

again...let's move on.
letting go that person is a must.
spare ur heart to the one that appreciates u.
not to the one that left u before.




# healing takes time. everybody knows it.
may ALLAH helps u through this phase. :)

Friday, May 17

her "speech to the world"

"World, open your eyes. Look beyond yourselves and find the Truth. 
I have found it but am too weak to own it. Never be weak. 
But if you are strong, do not be proud. 
Look beyond the surface of things, deep in to their meaning. 
For the secrets of life are found beneath every hardship and every smile. 
Do not cry for what has passed you by. Learn not to yearn for what can never by yours. Understand that even prayer is not magic. 
A man's body may bow without his soul. 
Do not be so arrogant as to believe that God will knock on your door, for He has no need for you or I. You must strive toward God, who will then, and only then, come towards you. 
You must strive and struggle for all that you want. Know that this life was not meant to be easy, for then what would the next be called. 
Understand that happiness is like a tree. God gave you the seeds, the sun, and the rain, but only you can make it grow.
Do not wait your whole life for a dream. Make the most of every moment of every single day, for truly it may be your last. 
Finally, know that the life of this world is but play and amusement. So fear a day when no father shall prevail for his son, and no son for his father. 
Fear a day when all will remember, 
'but how will that remembrance profit them then (89:23).'"



by: Yasmin Mogahed

Sunday, April 21

passport kahwin..!

dah ada passport...dah boleh kawen..! yeaAyy!!!  ^_^
settle with kursus kahwin..
siapa2 nak kahwin tu...sila pergi kursus dulu oke? saya dahh...haha
tapi nak kahwin ke? eh? 


buku FREE..!
sila buat revision kalau nak kawen yep..  ^_^
time nak pergi tu macam2 rasa ada...rasa rugi pun ada...bukannya nak kahwin terus pun.
fikir just nak melengkapkan to-do list before habis study + melayan kawan2 yg nak kahwin ni..  =D
but once start dengar ceramah dari ustaz2 ni...even ustaz semua guna bahasa kelantan...its worth after all.
bukan hari2 dapat pengisian jiwa dgn hal2 agama...hal kehidupan..
lalai sgt dengan dunia..

ehemm..
semua orang nak kahwin kan?...fitrah..!!
lambat cepat tu rezeki...doa lah ye kawan2..
i'll prays for u too...boleh cepat2 aku dapat makan free...haha

aku? aku takut...!!
macam2 pengalaman depan mata buat aku selektif dgn manusia.
never pass the denial stage~


it's not really bout the rejection sometimes~
no worries...i like u...for real.
but sorry...i just can't love u.
# 2hari x menghadap thesis..oke..skrg kembali stress..  -_-

Sunday, March 24

la tahzan~

jangan bersedih~



ya ALLAH..
gantikanlah di tempat keresahan ini dgn kedamaian..
di tempat kedukaan dgn kegembiraan..
dan di tempat ketakutan dgn keamanan.

ya ALLAH..
sejukkanlah gejolak hati ini dgn salji keyakinan..
dan padamkanlah bara di jiwa dgn air keimanan.

tuhan..
jadikanlah mata yg tidak mahu lelap merasa mengantuk yg memberi ketenangan...
dan letakkanlah di atas jiwa yg goncang ini kedamaian..
dan berilah balasan baginya dgn kejayaan yg sudah hampir.

Thursday, March 21

3 days.

i just have 3 days in my life.
.....yesterday which already in the past.
.....today which i need to face all alone.
.....tomorrow which i need to pray for it.


yesterday...
i learned how to appreciate my life.
hardly tried to comfort my heart which currently not in sync with my mind.
i learned to love others even im not been loved.
i learned to concern bout others even nobody cares bout me.
giving without a thought what will u get at the end is the best way.

today...
i need to face my day.
but im sure im not left alone..
ALLAH is always with me.
He knows the best for me...my life...my destiny.

tomorrow...
everyday i ask ALLAH for another tomorrow..
always hoping for a better tomorrow..
please give me times to please my family..
it's all i asked for.
may ALLAH grant my prays~

whatever im face everyday...im thankful enough for being alive till now.
a new day is just for a new good deed..
i cant guess when my days will last.
i cant ask ALLAH to end my day.
it's all His will.

Thursday, February 28

ingat mati.

hari tu..attend post-mortem...lagi.
and perasaan pelik2 tu still ada...lagi.

bau bilik autopsy sgt kuat..melekat.
aku nangis baju x hilang bau..
nangis takutkan apa? hantu?
aku salah situasi..

tengok org mati harus buat aku sedar diri.
tua muda, kaya atau papa atau siapa pun kita,
ajal x ada limit usia.
x pernah tunggu taubat kita..

jangan bagi hati mati untuk terus ingat mati.

Monday, February 11

ayat SERIBU DINAR

Ayat 2 dan 3 surah At-Talaq

Hikmah Ayat 1000 Dinar


‎1. Memperoleh kemurahan rezeki yang tidak disangka-sangka.‎
‎2. Mendapat jalan keluar dari segala masalah dan kesulitan.‎
‎3. Mendapat perlindungan dari segala musibah dan bala bencana seperti peperangan,‎kezaliman dan    bencana alam.‎
‎4. Jika berperang Insya’Allah tidak akan cedera atau binasa kecuali telah sampai ajal.‎
‎5. Allah akan menunaikan segala hajat dan memberi kemudahan dalam setiap urusan.
- Ayat ini jikalau diamalkan setiap kali lepas solat sebanyak 3 X, Insya’Allah akan beroleh seribu faedah.
- Sesiapa yang beramal ayat ini Allah ta’ala akan mengadakan baginya jalan keluardari segala kesulitan, Allah ta’ala akan memberi rezeki yang banyak dengan tidak di sangka-sangka dan Allah Ta’ala menyampaikan segala hajatnya, dengan beramal bersungguh-sungguh dan yakin kepada Allah, terlindung segala daripada bala di darat dan di laut.
- Jika dibacakan kepada orang yang sedang sakit sebanyak 3 X dan dihembuskan kepada si pesakit itu dan di jampi pada air sebanyak 3 X diberi minum, Insya’Allah si pesakit akan sembuh.
- Jika mengalami masalah berat, seperti kesusahan kerana kezaliman orang-orang tamak, huru-hara dan peperangan yang ditimbulkan oleh musuh-musuh Negara. Beramallah selalu dengan ayat ini selepas solat fardhu, mudah-mudahan segala kesukaran mendapat perlindungan dari Allah Ta’ala.
- Jika bertempur menentang musuh, tidak binasa disebabkan terbakar, tidak lutdengan pukulan besi dan tiada mudaratdari sebarang benda yang bahaya. Hendaklah mengamalkan ayat ini dan bertawakkal kepada Allah SWT.
                     - Baca ayat ini sesudah solat lima waktu,
                     - Baca ketika hendak tidur 3x,
                     - Baca ayat ini ketika hendak keluar rumah sekurang-kurangnya 3x.
wallahualam~

#kopipasta from the author---> shafiqolbu.wordpress

Sunday, March 18

LA TAHZAN...!!



Saudaraku...
Jangan bersedih hati,
kerana kesedihan menyebabkan kita menyesali masa lalu,
memiliki pandangan buruk akan masa depan,
dan mensia-siakan masa sekarang kita...

Jangan bersedih hati,
kerana ia menyebabkan hati menjadi beku, 
wajah menjadi muram, 
semangat menjadi lemah,
dan harapan pun menjadi musnah..

Jangan bersedih hati,

 kerana kesedihan akan membuat senang musuh kita,
membuat marah teman kita,
dan membuat orang yang iri bersukaria...

Jangan bersedih hati,
kerana dengan bersedih hati kita telah menentang keputusan Allah SWT
dan menunjukkan kejengkelan atas apa yang telah dituliskan oleh-Nya bagi kita...

Jangan bersedih hati,

kerana duka cita tidak bisa membawa kembali sesuatu yang telah terjadi, 
ia tidak bisa mengubah atau memberikan manfaat apapun...

Jangan bersedih,

kerana kesedihan sering berasal dari syaitan,
dan merupakan sebuah bentuk keputusasaan...


Firman Allah:

“ Bukankan Kami telah melapangkan untukmu dadamu..? dan Kami telah menghilagkan daripadamu bebanmu yang telah memberatkan punggungmu..? Dan Kami tinggikan bagimu sebutan (nama) mu. Karena sesungguhnya sesudah kesulitan ada kemudahan. Maka apabila kamu telah selesai (dari suatu urusan) kerjakanlah dengan sungguh-sungguh pekerjaan yang lain. Dan hanya kepada Tuhanmulah hendaknya kamu berharap "
( QS.Al-Insyirah 94:1-8 )

" Janganlah kamu bersikap lemah, dan janganlah (pula) kamu bersedih hati, padahal kamulah orang-orang yang paling tinggi (derajatnya), jika kamu orang-orang yang beriman..."
( QS.Ali Imran: 139 )

Jangan Bersedih... 

Atas Perilaku Manusia Terhadapmu 
Tetapi Perhatikanlah Perilaku Mereka Terhadap Allah....

Jangan Bersedih... 

Allah Tidak Akan Mensia-siakan Pengorbananmu,
dan setiap perkara yang baik maupun buruk ada hikmahnya....

Jangan Bersedih,

Dunia ini Terlalu Hina Untuk Ditangisi....!